If your relationship with food or your body has felt frustrating…
there’s a reason for that
And it's not what you think...
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Why Self-Help Can Make Your Relationship With Your Body Worse
I've explored virtually every psychological, spiritual, and self-help approach to healing. And I've fallen into every trap each one hides. Here's the one that's most dangerous — and what the road to actual peace looks like instead.
The Real Price of Happiness (It’s Not What the Self-Help World Tells You)
I was 45 minutes into a 90-minute commute for 12 miles when something unexpected washed over me — a sense of peace I hadn't felt in years. That moment taught me something about happiness that none of the self-help work, therapy, or pillow-beating had managed to. Here's what it was.
You Will Never Get “A Body Like Hers” — And That’s Actually Good News
Meghan Trainor pulled her music video because her waist had been retouched without permission. Everyone's fighting about Photoshop again. But here's what we're missing while that argument keeps us distracted — and the one sentence from Shape Magazine's own editors that says everything.
Why Shame Never Works — And What Actually Does
Company executives keep calling me to help shame their employees into participating in wellness programs. And I keep gently telling them the same thing — shame doesn't work. Here's what Rotary's Four-Way Test taught me about motivation, accountability, and why positive reinforcement is the only approach that actually sticks.
Why Photoshop Isn’t Actually the Problem
My graphic designer Photoshopped one of my images — just barely. And honestly it looked great. As the Happy Calories Girl I asked him to change it back. But here's the thing — Photoshop isn't actually the problem. Here's the more empowering perspective that changes everything about how we see media images.
The Most Important Relationship You’re Ignoring — And How It Affects Your Body
Whether you know it or not you are in a relationship with your body. The only question is what kind. Do you ignore it? Abuse it? Fight it? Here's why the relationship with your body is the most important one you have — and what your Valentine can teach you about it.