FOOD, BODY IMAGE, AND THE WHOLE DIET-AND-EXERCISE DRAMA
There’s a lot more to our struggles with food and our bodies than calories, willpower, or trying harder.
Here, I explore the assumptions behind the traditional diet-and-exercise model, why so many familiar solutions keep us stuck, and what changes when we approach food, exercise, and our bodies from a completely different perspective.
Some posts are personal. Some challenge conventional wisdom. And some might make you laugh.
Browse the articles below. Start wherever you're curious.
You’re Not Broken — You’re Just Looking at Yourself From the Wrong Angle
Michelangelo said he didn't sculpt the David — the David was already in the marble. He simply removed everything that wasn't the David. Here's why that idea might be the most important thing anyone has ever said about your body and who you already are.
Why “Think Positive” Didn’t Work for Me (And What I Did Instead)
A host introduced me as a "Law of Attraction Weight Loss Expert." I paused — because Law of Attraction didn't actually work for me. It created more pain than peace. Here's what I figured out instead, and why it changed everything about how I teach women to heal their relationship with food.
Why You Don’t Need a “Solid Foundation” to Change Your Body
At a dinner party a friend kept asking me how to build a solid foundation for lasting change. We talked in circles for an hour before I realized we were thinking from completely different paradigms. Here's what he was missing — and what actually creates lasting results.
Why Accepting Your Body Isn’t Giving Up — It’s the Most Powerful Thing You Can Do
"How do I accept my body the way it is when I can't stand it?" It's the question I hear most. And I get it — in the diet and exercise world, acceptance means defeat. But that's not what acceptance actually is. Here's the distinction that changes everything.
Why “Your Thoughts Create Your Reality” Is Only Half True
"Your thoughts create your reality" is one of the most empowering — and painful — phrases in the personal growth world. Here's where it goes wrong, why it creates the same trap as the diet and exercise model, and what the distinction actually is that sets you free.
When Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work — Try This Instead
My cat was dying and I couldn't think a single happy thought. All the affirmations and positive reframes in the world did nothing. Here's what actually pulled me out — and why it works when nothing else does.