What Queer Eye Gets Right — And What It Misses
I have a love/hate relationship with Queer Eye. The unconditional love and support the Fab Five offer their clients is genuinely beautiful. But pop psychology sound bites don’t create lasting transformation. Here’s what the show gets right — and what happens when the cameras stop rolling.
The Hardest Part Wasn’t the Eating Disorder
In 1986 a friend wrote a poem about me. I was anorexic and disappearing. People who read it now feel relieved I survived that time. But here’s what they don’t know — being anorexic was actually the easy part. The hardest part came after.
My Story: From Anorexia and 200 Pounds to Happy Calories Don’t Count®
At seventeen I was hospitalized for anorexia at 80 pounds. At thirty I was 200 pounds and suicidal. What happened between those two moments — and after — became the foundation of everything I teach. This is my story.
Is Body Positivity Actually Making Things Worse?
“Love your body” sounds beautiful. But you can’t compel yourself to love anything — least of all your body. Here’s why the Body Positivity movement, despite its good intentions, often leaves women with more pain than peace.
The Serenity Prayer and the Secret to Ending the Food Fight
The Serenity Prayer talks about accepting what you can’t change, changing what you can, and having the wisdom to know the difference. It turns out that’s also the perfect framework for understanding why diet culture fails, why body positivity falls short, and what Happy Calories Don’t Count® actually does differently.
What Nobody Knows About the Happiest Person in the Room
Everyone describes me the same way — happy, energetic, vivacious. What they don’t know is that I live with depression. Not the situational kind. The kind that just is. Here’s what I’ve learned about living with it — and how the same principles behind Happy Calories Don’t Count® changed my relationship with that too.
What ‘Co-Creating Your Reality’ Actually Means — And What It Doesn’t
“Your thoughts create your reality.” It’s everywhere. And it’s actually true — just not in the way the snake oil salesmen mean it. Here’s what co-creating your reality actually looks like, why you can’t think your way to winning the lottery, and what you actually can control.
What Do You Actually Mean By the Law of Attraction?
When the event organizer asked “do you believe in the Law of Attraction?” every hand went up except mine. Not because I don’t believe in it — but because I didn’t know what she meant by it. Here’s the distinction that changes everything.
What the Body Image Movement Gets Right — And Where It Falls Short
I finally saw Embrace by Taryn Brumfitt and left feeling grateful — grateful that I’m free. The film does important work. But it operates from within the same model that creates the pain in the first place. Here’s what the Body Image Movement gets right and what it’s still missing.
Why Renaming Diet and Exercise Doesn’t Actually Change Anything
“No problem can be solved by the same level of consciousness that created it.” Einstein said that — and it perfectly describes why calling your diet a “lifestyle change” or your workout “enjoyable movement” doesn’t actually heal anything. Real transformation requires changing the underlying paradigm, not just the vocabulary.