Good Orderly Direction — What Science and God Have in Common (And Why It Matters for Your Body)
What does the divide between science and religion have to do with healing your relationship with food and your body? More than you’d think. In this episode, Carmela traces how both camps are really wrestling with the same question — and how labeling people to dismiss them is the thing keeping us from actually hearing each other, whether that’s a friend on the other side of a political argument or your own body trying to get your attention.
The Religion of Diet Culture — And Why It’s Keeping You From What Actually Works
A pastor walked into his sermon making every single point of the Happy Calories Don’t Count® method — relationships over rules, making majors out of majors — and then used a weight loss example to illustrate his final point and walked straight back into Diet Drama Land without realizing it. In this episode, Carmela uses that moment to show exactly why it’s so hard to escape the diet and exercise model, even when you’re actively trying to.
Why the Diet and Exercise Model Is So Hard to Escape (And One Unexpected Way to See It Clearly)
If you can’t see an alternative, you don’t even know you’re stuck. In this episode, Carmela uses the polarized cultural moment we’re all living through to illustrate why the diet and exercise model is nearly impossible to escape — it’s the only perspective most of us have ever been given. Plus: why that person whose body you admire might be getting their results in spite of what they’re doing, not because of it.
Back to Basics — The 5 Steps That Actually Create a Body and Life You Love
New year, same resolution. Same programs, same apps, same promises — all built on the same flawed foundation. In this back-to-basics episode, Carmela walks through all five steps of the Happy Calories Don’t Count® method and explains why switching from a transaction-based model to a relationship-based one is the only thing that actually changes anything — not just for January, but for good.
Why Weight Loss “Tricks” Keep Failing You (And What to Do Instead)
There’s a big difference between a tool and a trick. Personal growth people know this — and yet when it comes to their bodies, they abandon every tool they have and reach for tricks instead. Here’s why that keeps backfiring.
Fake It Till You Make It?Why “Fake It Till You Make It” Doesn’t Work (And What Does)Fake It Till You Make It?
I was on a TV set, supposed to play a woman who thinks she’s the most beautiful person in the room — and all I could see in the mirror was a tired, haggard actress with every line on her face showing. That’s when I figured out what “fake it till you make it” actually means.
One Word That’s Secretly Blocking Your Body Goals
There’s a word most of us use dozens of times a day that quietly shuts down every possibility before it has a chance. It shows up constantly when women talk about food, their bodies, and why change feels impossible. Here’s what it is — and what to say instead.
How Change Actually Happens (It’s Not What You Think)
A newsletter arrived with the words “we regret to inform you” — and just like that, everything shifted. Unexpected loss has a way of cutting through the noise. Here’s what it reminded me about change, choice, and how we experience our lives.
Why There Are No Right Answers When It Comes to Your Body
My college calculus professor once told me something that terrified me so much I immediately changed majors. Years later it became the foundation of everything I teach about food, weight, and wellness. Here’s what he said.
Why Feeling Your Feelings Is the Fastest Way Back to Peace
I discovered two typos in my newsletter and immediately threw a hissy fit. And honestly? It was the right call. Here’s why letting yourself go to the dark side is sometimes the most direct route back to happiness — and what that has to do with food and your body.