Why Advertisers Keep Making You Feel Bad About Your Body (And How to Stop Them)
My husband plays piano in bars. His job is to read the room and play whatever keeps people happy and spending money. Advertisers work exactly the same way — and once you see that, their power over you completely changes.
Why Women Bond Over Body Shame (And What It’s Really Costing Us)
A reader asked me to dig deeper into something I noticed — that the diet culture small talk I receive changes completely depending on what I’m wearing. Here’s what I think is actually happening, and why it matters more than it seems.
Why Women Tear Each Other’s Bodies Apart (And What It’s Really About)
Leaving the theater after The Avengers, I overheard a group of women critiquing Scarlett Johansson’s body. Not teenage girls — grown women in their thirties and forties. And what struck me wasn’t the comment itself. It was what it revealed about how we see ourselves.
You’re Not Broken — You’re Just Looking at Yourself From the Wrong Angle
Michelangelo said he didn’t sculpt the David — the David was already in the marble. He simply removed everything that wasn’t the David. Here’s why that idea might be the most important thing anyone has ever said about your body and who you already are.
Why Women’s Clothing Sizes Are Meaningless — And Why We Still Let Them Define Us
A police officer told my friend she was “lucky they just took clothes.” I had to respond. He had no idea what it means for a woman to have her gym bag stolen — or why that number on a clothing tag carries as much weight as the number on a scale. Here’s the absurdity we’ve all accepted without question.
Why Knowing Photos Are Photoshopped Doesn’t Stop the Pain
I knew the magazine cover was retouched. I know every cover is retouched. And yet standing in the grocery store checkout line looking at Gwyneth Paltrow’s abs, I still felt it. Here’s why knowing something intellectually and really knowing it are two completely different things.
You Are Perfect Exactly Where You Are in Your Journey
A passage from The Inner Game of Tennis stopped me cold. It’s about a rose seed — but it’s really about you, exactly as you are right now, at whatever stage of your journey you’re in.