What ‘Co-Creating Your Reality’ Actually Means — And What It Doesn’t
“Your thoughts create your reality.” It’s everywhere. And it’s actually true — just not in the way the snake oil salesmen mean it. Here’s what co-creating your reality actually looks like, why you can’t think your way to winning the lottery, and what you actually can control.
What Do You Actually Mean By the Law of Attraction?
When the event organizer asked “do you believe in the Law of Attraction?” every hand went up except mine. Not because I don’t believe in it — but because I didn’t know what she meant by it. Here’s the distinction that changes everything.
Why Renaming Diet and Exercise Doesn’t Actually Change Anything
“No problem can be solved by the same level of consciousness that created it.” Einstein said that — and it perfectly describes why calling your diet a “lifestyle change” or your workout “enjoyable movement” doesn’t actually heal anything. Real transformation requires changing the underlying paradigm, not just the vocabulary.
What Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning Taught Me About Body Image
Someone once told me my book reminded them of Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning. I had to reread it to understand what they meant. What I found was that Frankl and I — a holocaust survivor and a woman who survived an eating disorder — were essentially saying the same things about suffering, meaning, and the freedom that comes from changing yourself when you cannot change the situation.
Are You Putting Your Faith in a Diet Culture Fantasy?
Faith and fantasy can look identical from the outside. Both keep us going despite the odds. But one grounds us in reality and the other keeps us stuck. Here’s how I finally understood the difference — and why it changes everything about how we relate to our bodies.
Why Food Freedom Is the Zen of Weight Loss
I finally went looking for Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance — and ended up with Alan Watts instead. What I found in his first lecture about the Tibetan Wheel of Life explained everything I’ve been trying to teach about getting off the diet and exercise teeter-totter. Here’s the connection.
Why Self-Help Can Make Your Relationship With Your Body Worse
I’ve explored virtually every psychological, spiritual, and self-help approach to healing. And I’ve fallen into every trap each one hides. Here’s the one that’s most dangerous — and what the road to actual peace looks like instead.
The Real Price of Happiness (It’s Not What the Self-Help World Tells You)
I was 45 minutes into a 90-minute commute for 12 miles when something unexpected washed over me — a sense of peace I hadn’t felt in years. That moment taught me something about happiness that none of the self-help work, therapy, or pillow-beating had managed to. Here’s what it was.
Why Accepting That Life Sometimes Sucks Is the Secret to Food Freedom
I’ve been bingeing The Vampire Diaries — and before you judge me, hear me out. A conversation between two immortal vampires accidentally said everything I’ve ever wanted to say about why fighting “what is” only creates more pain. Including with your body.
Why Controlling Your Body Will Never Make You Happy (And What Actually Does)
I binge-watched enough Netflix to notice a pattern — every show about power ends the same way. The characters who fight hardest to control their circumstances are the most miserable. Here’s why that’s exactly what’s happening with diet culture, and what personal empowerment actually looks like instead.