Why Fitness Trackers Can’t Tell You What Your Body Already Knows
Your Fitbit doesn’t know you. It can count your steps but it can’t feel your body, understand your stress, or sense what you actually need. In this episode, Carmela digs into why the data obsession of the fitness industry is a symptom of the diet and exercise model — and why the information your body is already giving you is far more valuable than anything on a screen.
Why Fitness Apps and Trackers Keep You Stuck (And What Actually Builds a Body You Love)
Fitness trackers promise data-driven results, but Carmela makes the case that tracking calories, steps, and macros is actually disconnecting you from the very thing that creates lasting change: the wisdom of your own body. In this episode, she explains why external data is no substitute for an internal relationship, and what it actually looks like to build a body you love.
Emotional Eating Isn’t the Problem — Here’s What Actually Is
Emotional eating gets blamed for everything, but what if the problem isn’t that you eat emotionally — it’s the model that says you shouldn’t? In this episode, Carmela reframes emotional eating entirely, explains why all eating is emotional in some sense, and shows how the diet and exercise model turns a normal human experience into a source of shame and dysfunction.
What COVID Quarantine Taught Us About Our Relationship With Food
When COVID quarantine hit, the internet filled up with jokes about refrigerators and weight gain. But those jokes weren’t really about food. They were about the pain we all carry around our bodies — pain that no lock down created and no diet will fix. Here’s what that moment revealed about our relationship with food and our bodies.
What Do You Eat? Answering the Questions I Get Asked Most
Most questions I get about food and weight loss come from inside the diet-and-exercise model. But my answers come from somewhere completely different. Here’s what that means — and why context changes everything about the answers you’re getting.
Why “It’s Not About the Food” Is Only Half True
“It’s not about the food — it’s about the unresolved emotional stuff.” That’s pop psychology 101 for emotional eating. And it’s half right. Here’s the half nobody talks about — and why eating disorder treatment programs accidentally keep people stuck by making it about the food all over again.
How My Grammy Gave Me the Food Crazies — And the Strength to Heal Them
My Grammy passed last weekend. And I realized that this entire methodology — Happy Calories Don’t Count — grew out of healing relationship dynamics that I learned from her. Here’s the legacy she left me, both the painful parts and the beautiful ones.
Why “What Can I Do to Feel Better?” Is the Only Weight Loss Question That Matters
People are always surprised when I order french fries. They assume Happy Calories Don’t Count is a permission slip to eat whatever I want as long as I’m happy about it. It’s not. Here’s what it actually is — and the simple four-step process that replaces every diet you’ve ever tried.
Why Emotional Eating Isn’t the Problem You Think It Is
Everyone treats emotional eating like it’s a character flaw. But what if it’s actually smart? Here’s why eating to feel better might be the most natural, connected thing you can do — and why the “diet and exercise” model has it completely backwards.
The Emotional Eating Myth That’s Actually Making Things Worse
Everyone thinks they know what emotional eating is — and everyone thinks it’s bad. But the definition most people are working from is based on a completely false premise. Here’s what emotional eating actually is, and why the real problem is something else entirely.