What COVID Quarantine Taught Us About Our Relationship With Food
When COVID quarantine hit, the internet filled up with jokes about refrigerators and weight gain. But those jokes weren’t really about food. They were about the pain we all carry around our bodies — pain that no lock down created and no diet will fix. Here’s what that moment revealed about our relationship with food and our bodies.
What Do You Eat? Answering the Questions I Get Asked Most
Most questions I get about food and weight loss come from inside the diet-and-exercise model. But my answers come from somewhere completely different. Here’s what that means — and why context changes everything about the answers you’re getting.
The Real Reason Diet Drama Never Goes Away
When I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter® launched a campaign about ending food drama, they got one thing right — the drama is real. But their solution missed the point entirely. Here’s why no product can solve a problem that starts with the model itself.
Why ‘The Science of Weight Loss’ Won’t Actually Help You
A magazine headline promised “The Science of Weight Loss.” I didn’t buy it. Not the magazine — and not the premise. Here’s why science alone can never tell you what your own body already knows.
Can Shapewear Really Be Body Positive?
A shapewear ad called itself “body positive” while selling products designed to reshape women’s bodies. I’m not against shapewear. But I am against sleight of hand marketing that mistakes a product for a solution — and keeps women stuck in the underlying pain.
Happy Calories Don’t Count® vs Intuitive Eating — What’s the Difference?
I get asked this question constantly in Seattle’s alternative health community: how is Happy Calories Don’t Count® different from intuitive eating? The differences come down to two things — the underlying model and the methodology. Here’s what that actually means.
Why Oprah’s Food and Diet Ventures Miss the Point
Oprah is one of the most powerful women in the world. And yet her ventures — from Weight Watchers to cauliflower pizza — all operate from within the same broken model. Here’s why even the most well-intentioned diet culture contributions keep women stuck.
The Serenity Prayer and the Secret to Ending the Food Fight
The Serenity Prayer talks about accepting what you can’t change, changing what you can, and having the wisdom to know the difference. It turns out that’s also the perfect framework for understanding why diet culture fails, why body positivity falls short, and what Happy Calories Don’t Count® actually does differently.
Why We Accept Aging But Not Our Bodies
I finally went to the optometrist and was annoyed that my eyesight was changing with age. Then I noticed something ironic. We accept aging as something we can’t control — but we carry enormous shame about our weight and bodies because we believe we can control them. What if that belief is the problem?
Does Your Body Trust You? (And What Dieting Does to That Trust)
I saw someone post about “the eating plan I’m on now” — now being the operative word. Every month, a new plan. And I thought — does her body trust her? Because here’s the thing about dieting that nobody talks about: it’s not just ineffective. From your body’s perspective, it’s disrespectful. Here’s what I mean.