Why Figuring Out the “Cause” of Your Weight Struggle Keeps You Stuck
My cat was very sick and I kept torturing myself — what if I’d caught it earlier? What caused this? If I can just find the cause, I can fix it. Sound familiar? Here’s why looking for the cause of your food drama keeps you trapped — and what to focus on instead.
Why Every Weight Loss Program Keeps You on the Same Broken Teeter-Totter
Every weight loss program — from basic calorie counting to emotional healing to spiritual alignment — eventually reduces back down to the same thing: the diet and exercise teeter-totter. Here’s what that means, why no one questions it, and what it looks like to finally get off it entirely.
Why the Diet and Exercise Model Is Like Believing the Earth Is the Center of the Universe
Before Copernicus, astronomers could explain a lot of what they observed — they just couldn’t get to Mars. The math was based on a fundamentally flawed premise. The diet and exercise model has exactly the same problem. Here’s what that means for every woman who’s ever blamed herself for not getting results.
What Happens When You Stop Linking Diet and Exercise Together
A friend posted that she needed to “burn off” her Fourth of July calories with a run. I didn’t comment — because what I had to say would have taken more than a Facebook reply. Here’s the mindset shift that actually sets you free from the diet and exercise trap.
The Doctor’s Office Question That Reveals Everything Wrong With Diet Culture
The first question on a medical intake form wasn’t about heart disease or diabetes. It was about “unplanned changes” in my weight. That word — unplanned — stopped me cold. Here’s what it assumes about you and your body, and why it matters.
The Yoplait Ad That Accidentally Proved Everything Wrong With Diet Culture
My husband told me about a Yoplait commercial he thought I’d love — a woman doing mental gymnastics over a slice of cheesecake while a thinner woman just reaches for the yogurt. He was right. It perfectly illustrates the difference between the diet mindset and food freedom. Then the ad got pulled — and that’s where things got interesting.
Why Fighting Your Food Struggles Makes Them Worse
A friend’s mom had fallen multiple times without breaking a bone — because she learned to stop fighting the fall and just let it happen. Here’s why that’s some of the best advice I’ve ever heard for anyone struggling with food, their body, or their weight.
Why Women’s Clothing Sizes Are Meaningless — And Why We Still Let Them Define Us
A police officer told my friend she was “lucky they just took clothes.” I had to respond. He had no idea what it means for a woman to have her gym bag stolen — or why that number on a clothing tag carries as much weight as the number on a scale. Here’s the absurdity we’ve all accepted without question.
Photoshop Isn’t Causing Your Body Image Issues — This Is
Everyone blames Photoshop for unrealistic beauty standards. But here’s a question nobody asks — what if those images were real and achievable? Would the body image problem disappear? Here’s why the answer is no, and what’s actually causing the pain.
Why Knowing Photos Are Photoshopped Doesn’t Stop the Pain
I knew the magazine cover was retouched. I know every cover is retouched. And yet standing in the grocery store checkout line looking at Gwyneth Paltrow’s abs, I still felt it. Here’s why knowing something intellectually and really knowing it are two completely different things.