Why Your Relationship With Your Body Is Like an Arranged Marriage
Every time someone asks me about self-acceptance, a song from Fiddler on the Roof pops into my head. Stay with me — because this arranged marriage metaphor might be the most honest thing I’ve ever said about why we struggle so hard with our bodies.
The 5 Steps to Healing Your Relationship With Food and Your Body
A reader wrote to me about celiac disease, food allergies, and feeling like she wanted to trade her body in. Her situation was unique — but the path forward was the same one I’d recommend to anyone. Here are the five steps that change everything.
Why Women Apologize for Eating (And Dance Like Nobody’s Watching)
On Friday I watched a group of women apologize for every bite of their lunch. On Saturday I watched those same types of women climb on top of pianos to dance to Baby Got Back. The contrast broke my heart — and explained everything about how women relate to their bodies.
You’re Not Broken — You’re Just Looking at Yourself From the Wrong Angle
Michelangelo said he didn’t sculpt the David — the David was already in the marble. He simply removed everything that wasn’t the David. Here’s why that idea might be the most important thing anyone has ever said about your body and who you already are.
Why Accepting Your Body Isn’t Giving Up — It’s the Most Powerful Thing You Can Do
“How do I accept my body the way it is when I can’t stand it?” It’s the question I hear most. And I get it — in the diet and exercise world, acceptance means defeat. But that’s not what acceptance actually is. Here’s the distinction that changes everything.
Why Women’s Clothing Sizes Are Meaningless — And Why We Still Let Them Define Us
A police officer told my friend she was “lucky they just took clothes.” I had to respond. He had no idea what it means for a woman to have her gym bag stolen — or why that number on a clothing tag carries as much weight as the number on a scale. Here’s the absurdity we’ve all accepted without question.
You Are Perfect Exactly Where You Are in Your Journey
A passage from The Inner Game of Tennis stopped me cold. It’s about a rose seed — but it’s really about you, exactly as you are right now, at whatever stage of your journey you’re in.