Why “It’s Not About the Food” Is Only Half True
“It’s not about the food — it’s about the unresolved emotional stuff.” That’s pop psychology 101 for emotional eating. And it’s half right. Here’s the half nobody talks about — and why eating disorder treatment programs accidentally keep people stuck by making it about the food all over again.
Why Pushing Harder Is the Reason Your Body Isn’t Changing
I don’t believe in magic. And I don’t believe in the diet and exercise model either. But I do believe in something I learned from teaching Pilates — that the real transformation happens not when you push harder, but when you relax into what’s actually there. Here’s what that means for your body and your life.
What Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning Taught Me About Body Image
Someone once told me my book reminded them of Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning. I had to reread it to understand what they meant. What I found was that Frankl and I — a holocaust survivor and a woman who survived an eating disorder — were essentially saying the same things about suffering, meaning, and the freedom that comes from changing yourself when you cannot change the situation.
Are You Putting Your Faith in a Diet Culture Fantasy?
Faith and fantasy can look identical from the outside. Both keep us going despite the odds. But one grounds us in reality and the other keeps us stuck. Here’s how I finally understood the difference — and why it changes everything about how we relate to our bodies.
What If You Treated Your Body Like a Friend Instead of an Enemy?
Your body and I have something in common — we both want you to want us. Not because of a flashy headline or a before-and-after photo. Because of a real relationship. Here’s why starting with “not hostile” might be enough to change everything.
What Binge-Watching Weight Loss Commercials Taught Me About Diet Culture
I spent January cuddled on the couch mainlining television — and accidentally conducted the most revealing experiment in diet culture I’ve ever done. When you watch weight loss commercial after weight loss commercial with a critical eye, something becomes very clear. Here’s what I noticed.
Real Eating Disorder Recovery Means Complete Freedom — Not a Life in Management
I saw a meme that said “Yes, I have an eating disorder. No, I can’t just get over it.” And I called B.S. Not because eating disorders aren’t real and painful — I know firsthand that they are. But because that belief is exactly what keeps people stuck. Here’s what real recovery actually looks like.
The Three Biggest Myths Keeping You Stuck in Food Drama
Every holiday season the same tired advice appears everywhere — avoid the buffet, watch your portions, burn off your indulgences. But the real mistakes keeping women stuck have nothing to do with what they eat. Here are the three cultural myths that actually keep you famished, frustrated and stuck.
How My Grammy Gave Me the Food Crazies — And the Strength to Heal Them
My Grammy passed last weekend. And I realized that this entire methodology — Happy Calories Don’t Count — grew out of healing relationship dynamics that I learned from her. Here’s the legacy she left me, both the painful parts and the beautiful ones.
Why Food Freedom Is the Zen of Weight Loss
I finally went looking for Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance — and ended up with Alan Watts instead. What I found in his first lecture about the Tibetan Wheel of Life explained everything I’ve been trying to teach about getting off the diet and exercise teeter-totter. Here’s the connection.